WHY YOU SHOULDN’T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP NOW:
NB: Take the relevant and discard the remnant.I won’t explain myself if you decide to be contradictory.
I understand that you desperately want to be in a relationship. You really want to feel loved. You really want to have someone you can do all the mushy mushy & lovey dovey stuff with. You see people with their partners and all you can do is say “God when?”
But then, is it really for you? Are you actually ready for a relationship?
I’ll tell you why you’re not:
WHY YOU SHOULDN’T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP NOW
1• YOU’RE STILL TOO YOUNG IN AGE AND MATURITY: This Relationship stuff isn’t just about 2 persons liking each other. It goes way beyond that. Of course there should be love, but how long would it last if you’re not mature enough to give the relationship a purpose?
How do you think it’d stand if you’re not emotionally matured enough to handle the responsibilities, admit mistakes, take care of problems without being childish, Offer valuable advice to your partner and so on?
If you enter that Relationship now, you’re just going there for the se.x and fun of “having a girl/boyfriend”. Nothing else. Because you’re still too young to know the purpose of a relationship. WHY YOU SHOULDN’T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP NOW
2• YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON BUILDING YOURSELF FIRST: There’s more to life than Relationships, kissing, cuddling, Intercourse and calling each other “LOML”.
Of what use are you to your girlfriend if she can’t boast to her friends like, “My boo is a badàss graphics designer and Soon to be Mechanical Engineer with good grades”?
Of what use are you to your boyfriend if he can’t be like “That shirt inside the wardrobe was made by my girl. She’s also into baking stuff”? Some of you have nothing else apart from your relationship with a man. You have no dreams for yourself, no value and no goal. Only to beg for everything.
Build yourself first. Develop your self to be able to stand with or without the Relationship.
I mean, apart from your first school leaving certificate, you never achieve anything. Your life never get any meaning, you come dey find Girlfriend. Progress no dey sweet you?
You be only son, or you’re still serving your master (oga), you’re looking for a Girlfriend instead of focusing on yourself. Helloooo!! Are you normal? It’s like you weren’t informed. WHY YOU SHOULDN’T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP NOW
Focus on self development!
3• Your trust issue would make it difficult for any guy to stay happy with you. You’d keep on stressing the guy with your insecurities in the Relationship, and he’d probably get tired of you. You’d keep thinking that every guy wants to finish you kpata kpata and that he’s cheating on you, meanwhile it’s just a harmless “Hello, good morning” from XYZ.
4• YOU ARE BROKE TO STUPOR: Don’t let anybody tell you that you can enjoy your Relationship without money. Money is there to make it more fun and sweeter. “Love is sweet o, when money enter, love is sweeter”.
Would you be happy when you’re strolling with your babe and a guy in a Lexus stops her and asks why she’s walking alone? Do you want to be seeing other guys spoil their girls with nice treats, while In your own “suffer with me relationship” na just minimie Chin-chin & constant strafing you don give your babe since 4 years of dating?
Nwanne, chuba ego first. Yes, “Money doesn’t buy love. But It makes the Relationship fun and creates memories”.
If you don’t have money, you can’t take your babe to ShopRite to have the time of her life at the Virtual Reality Game section. It’s these outings and doings you do with money That’d make the Relationship fun and memorable for the both of you. Or is it only “If you’re coming, bring food for me” that you people would be enjoying in the Relationship?
You don’t even have money to buy her stuff on her birthday. All you can afford is “On this day, a queen was born. She is the bright morning star, the Lily of the valley, The I am that I am…”
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You’d see your babe with an overdue hair and you’re not even financially capable to help out.
When she’d honestly tells about her financial problems, that she needs money for something urgent and her parents are currently unable to help out, you discover that you can’t even help in any way.
Trust me, no matter how much we say “I no be your father. No dey bill me. I’m not responsible for your care”, If you truly love someone as you claim, you’d feel bad when she comes to you seeking for your help and you can’t help her. You’d feel bad seeing her in that helpless condition. Nobody wants to see his loved one in a helpless situation. If you like argue say I dey side women. WHY YOU SHOULDN’T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP NOW
So brother, as long as you don’t have money, just stay single. Don’t go and oppress yourself. Pursuing relationship when your destiny needs Attention is a misplaced priority.
Don’t argue with me .
You shouldn’t be in a relationship now, because anyhow you want to do it, it would still spoil.
Source: ADAM & EVE